There is a lot of talk and stories from way back when, of the struggle of the single mother battling adversity to give their child a better life, but such accolades are few and far between for single fathers. It’s articles like these which need to push the point on single dads and lend some support. Genius BBC dramas such as Single Father are definitely a step in the right direction, however often single dads lifestyles are scrutinised a lot more than single mums. Why? Being a single parent is hard enough so why gender issues?! Just because their living situation is not widely known as ‘the norm’ (whatever that is!) there is no need to treat them any differently.
With great responsibility comes… crazy financial matters! Here are a few ways to try and help with the costs of parenting and insightful tips for managing financial problems to those single dads out there!
Check local authorities for benefit and special grants to help with your income. You could claim child care benefits or receive Sure Start Maternity Grant of £500 which you do not have to pay back.
Seek help for child care options on a budget you can afford. Some schools offer local schemes to look after kids and you can apply for child care vouchers through your current employment. You can also check out nanny websites such as www.thenannysharers.co.uk or simply use and abuse favours from friends and family to help with babysitting.
Buying furniture and toys for your young ones can break the bank, so why not have a look on the classic sites such as eBay for used toys and furniture. You can also take advantage of special ‘nearly as new’ sales from The National Childbirth Trust.
If you are thinking of going on holiday but the money implications and hassle factor fills you with dread, then have a look at helpful websites such as www.singleparentsonholiday.co.uk They offer a great advice and options on holiday trips with young children which won’t kill your bank account!
It’s also worth checking out your local council’s website to see if there are any support groups for other single dads in your area. Try www.onlydads.org for free advice on finances, work, legal advice and relationships to name but a few.
Just as a little comic relief, I would like to introduce you to one of my fave bands (please don’t judge me!) Man Like Me who made this fabulous music video telling the real life story of the lead singers predicament as a single dad. Joyous!